What One Wants by Dark Lord Follower

What one wants isn’t what one wants when it comes to when one says what they want, wishes they had it but doesn’t want it and wonders why others may get it because from the first they wouldn’t do it. After all, it might mean others will get it.

“Why is it that men show you what excites them and even tell you that is what they want but then back away and say that isn’t the woman they want.”

I am using the the above artwork from the internet recommended by the author of the message because it does convey a message and not the one most would immediately comprehend.

What one is seeing is what many husbands would see as their unachievable goal. Because even if he was married to the most beautiful woman in the world she still wouldn’t be what he wished for.

Let me sum it up this way. How often does a guy want a wife who is everything — saint and slut yet neither — able to engage in over-the-top pleasurable intimacy while being modest at the same time. Showing off but not showing off.

A wife wanted by every other man but not wanted by every other man. How often do guys not ask the woman they want to ask out but fear she will turn him down? It happens all the time.

And it happens when couples are married. Hubby wants the wife to be all he wants sexually and be willing to do what he wishes but if she is — there is that chance he will lose her.

For you see, even if she agrees to engage in whatever enjoyment he wishes, there is the fear that somehow he will, again, lose her. So he feels he can’t afford to engage in his desire and even when he shares it with her and she agrees, there is still that fear that somehow he can lose her so it’s best not to push at all.

And “losing” her doesn’t mean the marriage will end. It may mean that she will be open to others in some way “on the side” or something similar.

I know some won’t grasp what I’m saying but bear with me. Intimacy takes many forms inside the home and there are times when couples are away from those they know (family and friends) where they can “let their hair down” and indulge and explore when it comes to things sensual and sexual.

Often it is just being free to go to a nude beach on a lark or even indulge in hedonist activities with others they know they don’t know to see how it is. At home, it may be that the wife looks great in short shorts and casual wear.

However, the minute the wife is ready to go out wearing the apparel the husband is apprehensive and doesn’t want his wife drawing attention (which she does anyway if you think about it). I’m not going to get into all the “whys” but I will address how a wife can feel when these things happen.

For you see, what guys don’t realize, it seems, is that will all the hype where the wife and he indulge in whatever they do, her mind is at work comprehending the messages he is sending-the unsaid messages that are, while she is weighing his words.

Because we women learn that often a man wants two women and not one. Husbands want the saint and the slut at the same time. That is difficult to do and that is why when wives stray and play, it’s easier and more exciting for the wife with the new guy even if the hubby is present.

I say this last because she can and often does at some point “tune him out” risking whatever hubby’s response might be so is ready if he wants to stop. But she can be and often is frustrated because she is striving to please him.

It’s easier for her to stray and play to fulfil those desires that hubby is encouraging or says he wants her to experience if she wants to do so. Women have imaginations and are sensual and sexual beings also, something I don’t need to share but emphasize here because my focus is this.

A guy puts an idea in a woman’s head and then she is supposed to forget it? It doesn’t work that way. And it may be and often is that the wife has been hit on by others and these events she doesn’t share with her husband for any number of reasons, chief among them she wasn’t interested or didn’t want to do so for whatever reason including “I’m married”. Is it fair to tell the wife you want her to fuck and then say “No”? That is the simplest way to say it. You build it all up only to put it down.

What is happening is hubby isn’t considering his wife’s “mind is also working” wondering how to deal with what hubby wants but doesn’t want he says he wants it but then doesn’t for whatever reason arises at the moment.

When one plants the idea, regardless of the wife’s first impression or response, the idea is there and when it has to do with intimacy and things sensual and sexual, that idea germinates into any number of responses but the pleasure factor is a part of it.

We live in a sex-focused society where screwing occurs all the time in adulterous and non-adulterous situations, much less all the other sexual “indulged” often in a “morality play” setting so it isn’t censored but today often accepted and even encouraged by those who want to “prevent” it by always focusing on it. The seed germinates and grows into what?

The wife here is frustrated by a husband who wants her to be a saint and slut at the same time. One assumes that happens all the time. But it doesn’t. But we women try to make it work when it comes to our marriages but that doesn’t mean we won’t frequently fuck others if that is what we want to do. Communication and permission is what are recommended.

Whether this is helpful I do not know. I write sitting on a deck watching the waves. Where is the Dark Lord in all this? Guiding us to consider again the Four Maxims as we engage with another yet know our real me.

It’s natural to hem and haw, to want and not want, to seem confused, but in the end once a seed is planted when it comes to the sensual and sexual, it will not die but lies in the mind of the wife where it is fed in any number of ways in that place which is known only to her.

“There” is where she will decide what to do when she decides what she wants to do. I will stop here. Forgive the flaws. I trust the Dark Lord is pleased with my effort. Ave Obscurum Dominum.