The Fear That Isn’t Real, Or Is It? by Shadowysweetspaper

Why is it that husbands fear they’ve “lost” their wives to another man when what is occurring is she is engaging in a different experience with someone else which will end soon enough when they tire of the “new” because she is focused on the sexual experience and not the relationship.

“I called my cousin Kathy to tell her that my wife had been asked out on a date by a guy at work — she replied that she knew me and I should let her go because she said (the other guy) would eventually tire of her.”

Another interesting perspective where that was realized is that casual sex is often just that — the wife is seen as a conquest and not as Mrs. Right — Of course, among men there are all manner of motives as to why a guy would want to bed another’s wife.

Sure, there may be other ulterior motives. In this situation and overall when it comes to casual sex, the situation should be seen for what it is. The other guy may seem to be ‘Mr. It” but, in the end, he’s often a user enjoying your wife who is experiencing something new.

Sure, the other guy is a challenge and you need to consider your “game” but loving your wife is the primary key if you see the situation for what it is. However, it’s often hard to do so at first until you see it for the sex and put out of your mind all the things that men seemingly can’t. Especially when hubby isn’t there to see what’s happening and assumes the worst when what he needs to do is realize his wife is her person with her thoughts, desires and secrets, just as he is and has.

There is a great deal of truth in the statement that a couple where the wife is intimate with other men has to have a strong relationship where what is occurring is what both want to happen. Sure, swapping, swinging and sharing can be seen as the same thing.

The truth is that sharing, where the wife is away and the other partner isn’t there isn’t the same thing. All kinds of sensual scenarios play out when the wife is away from her husband, even in the next room. And she may want “more than once” for the very reason we enjoy a food we enjoy more than once. It’s all new. His attitude toward her isn’t yours. Yes, her pussy may be molded to accommodate what always seems to be a larger, thicker cock.

However, unless she and you are into big toys, the reality is she’s had the experience and will “shrink” back. I hate to use that term because it implies a great deal. I won’t say more even if there is plenty to be said. I will share this: My experience is that husbands do enjoy their wives being with other men who are larger and different — I’ve seen guys squeeze hardening cocks as it happened. I will venture to say “it’s normal” among those in the lifestyle.

The illustration is what I called ‘edgy” but speaks to the issue. I trust the article is adequate at least for me to place in My Secret Space for further thought as I, like all, grasp at the constantly changing nuances inherent among those interested in or engaged in the lifestyle.