Lilithianism by Hoku Lani – Non-Fiction

One of the most important questions that I have been asked is how to develop a relationship with Lilith. If you want to take a spiritual or religious approach with Lilith, having a relationship with her may be a rewarding experience, letting you know that Lilith is with you every step of the way on your journey down the left hand path.

Nobody starts out in any endeavor or spiritual journey knowing everything there is to know; nor do we have an intimate relation with our gods or goddesses as soon as we make a commitment or acknowledgment. A relationship takes time to cultivate. It may be like cultivating marijuana as you must plant the seed, water and feed it, keep the weeds out, and before you know it, you will have a beautiful plant to behold.

Here are some steps towards achieving your goal.

DEVELOPER A RELATIONSHIP

Start small and work your way out from there. You should consider that a relationship with Lilith is a personal experience, so what other people experience, or don’t experience, may not be your own experience. Taking this into consideration, I can only offer generalities regarding a relationship with Lilith, and discuss my own personal experience to give you some insight into the process as well.

My discovery of Lilith was filled with worshipful rituals, listening to binary beats, consuming any podcast on Lilith, and transgressive acts. This is not so uncommon among new followers who are finding their place in the world. I would acknowledge Lilith daily and prior to work I would gathering my tools, and wondering out to the beach. It was an interesting experience. Because I am a spiritual person, I had always felt that all it would take would be for me to reach out to Lilith and that being would answer in return – so I never really took it on faith or hope that I would get results. After all I was formerly a follower of an Abrahamic religion and became quite use to never observing any acknowledgment. I just threw myself into the work and got it done.  To my surprise the results were almost immediate and never ceased to amaze me!!

One of the most important aspects of my ritual making was my bond with Lilith. I thought that my dedication of my body for her use put me in a position of sincerity with an entity that was so hated in this world yet had so much power over it. I would not recommend this to new followers of course, because after all this time I can see how much power and energy is in the simple act of inviting her into my body, mind, and soul.

So start out by spending the next year studying and practicing your rituals, and by then you should have a clearer view of what you want to do with your pact if you so decide to make one with Lilith.

STUDY THE HISTORY OF LILITH

The history of Lilith is a long and winding road. It contains interesting insights into the character of Lilith through the myths, legends and stories surrounding her name. Beginning with the early gnostics, and continuing to this day, people’s views of Lilith have changed and evolved to mirror current events in history. In developing a relationship with Lilith, its important to consider the history that is behind the name. After all you would not want to get involved with someone if you didn’t know their history, their likes or dislikes, and what they are generally about, would you? That truly would be a leap of blind faith! I don’t recommend blind faith. I instead recommend that you study as much as you can about the history and character of Lilith, both in past times and our modern views of Lilith beginning with a cursory search on the internet.

CREATE YOUR OWN RITUAL

Develop your own rituals and use others as a guide but do what pleases you. There are many examples of ritual to be found on the internet and in books. A ritual is like a recipe, it contains essential ingredients that when put together create an interesting and symbolic experience. Writing your own rituals is not so complicated. Its important to consider that just because a ritual has been used by others and it carries the powers and energies of those who worked with it before you, it is not necessarily the best formula for your particular situation.

One of the simplest personal rituals I perform is the use of a Lilith rosary I crafted, to honor her while mocking my former enslavement under christianity. Daily I go to the beach, recite a prayer I discovered in the Liber Lilith, and simply pick up some sea glass.

Here is a basic template:  Most rituals have an opening, a declaration of intent, and a closing. It really is this simple. For instance with an evocation/invocation of Lilith, you could prepare your ritual space, make your ritual invocation, declare what you want out of your ritual, and then perform a closing or departing or a thanks at the end.

WATCH THE SIGNS

A common experience for any Lilithian is to have dreams about Lilith. How much of this is their own psychology or imagination at work and how much of it is Lilith in communication is difficult to say, as dreams are a personal experience. I know for my own life, the dreams that I’ve had about Lilith have come at critical times and stages and they have guided me and kept me on the path. But just because you don’t have a dream about Lilith does not mean that she is not in communication with you.

Its important to just let go and enjoy your experience with Lilith, instead of obsessing over every little sign and symbol in your life. Just remember that Lilithianism isn’t christianity and to my knowledge, Lilith isn’t out there giving orders to people and is not seeking revenge on those who “disobey”.

Its important to keep perspective in this regard and to view your experiences as a part of the whole. Do not take your experiences for granted but don’t obsess over them, either. What you experience will be a personal journey, unlike that of any other that you will meet in Lilithianism.

CONCLUSION

Whatever you decide, don’t give up! it takes time to develop a relationship. Just like in real life it comes in steps. You can’t have a relationship with someone without first initiating contact, learning about that person and making an effort to make yourself a part of their life. Lilith won’t come chasing after you and there is much work to be done in this regard especially when you are new to the path.

So take it a day at a time and don’t be hard on yourself, and remember that your experience won’t match what others have gone through. In the end you should make an effort to meditate on Lilith or perform rituals in her name, to learn about Lilith’s history, and to work at learning about her every day for at least a year before you make a solid commitment one way or the other.